National Champion

It was 2 a.m. and I couldn’t sleep. Granted, my team and I had just won a national championship a few hours ago, but I knew that that wasn’t the reason for my restlessness.

I was upset at myself for losing my individual match and feeling like I didn’t contribute to our victory enough. Obviously, I was ecstatic that our team had just won what we had been working 3 years to get, but there was a feeling inside me that wasn’t satisfied because I felt like I hadn’t done my part.

I should’ve done better.

Now most people would straight up laugh at me if I told them that or think that I was being ungrateful for the once in a lifetime opportunity that just occurred. And maybe I was a little.

Believe me, I am an embarrassed just admitting that I felt that way now. I didn’t want to feel that way, but I did. While I kept reminding myself to enjoy the journey and cherish every moment, the fierce competitor in me wouldn’t stop telling me that it wasn’t enough. I wasn’t enough. My effort wasn’t enough.

That was just one example in my life where the competitor in me hurt me and spoke contrary to what Jesus wanted to tell me.

Maybe you don’t relate, or maybe you do. But I know as a top division 1 athlete aspiring to play professionally after college, I am extremely hard on myself. So much so to the point where it can hurt me at times. My biggest challenges come in not overthinking things and not overworking.

Relatable Much?

Maybe you aren’t a D1 athlete, so if you can’t relate with athletics, maybe there is another aspect of your life that you are constantly pushing yourself to the point of exhaustion. I know a lot of people are like that with school. Some people are like that with work. Or relationships. Whatever it is, you are constantly evaluating your performance and it’s never good enough because you want to do better.

Why? Why can we never just be happy with our results and performance and be thankful for what we have? Call it overachieving, perfectionism, or the pursuit of greatness, but I believe that we feel like that when we judge our performances by the world’s standards.

The world tells us that we need to do everything perfect for people to think highly of us and feel satisfied with ourselves. As athletes, we are constantly taught to never be satisfied, but keep reaching and striving for our dreams. When we get there, we need to set new goals. And that’s healthy. That’s how we improve and get better.

But you can’t let your results define you as a person or you will feel like you are only worth how great your performance was. I think all the athletes and overachievers and people who are hard on themselves out there like me need to remember this simple message:

            No matter what we do, we will never be enough for the world. But we are enough for Jesus, right now as we are. He, in His unending mercy, loves us whether we succeed or not.

That should comfort us extremely and make us realize that it really doesn’t matter how we do at all.

It’s funny because while that message is nothing new to me (and it probably isn’t to you either), my human nature still reverts back to harmful ways of judging my performances by worldly standards. The competitive nature in me wants to compare myself to others and always do better than the person next to me.

A year ago I vowed I would never worry about what other people thought about me or my performances. I told myself I wouldn’t compare myself to others because it really didn’t matter. And I was doing so well with it. But there we were after winning a freaking national championship and I was upset that I didn’t do a better job. For Pete’s sake! What more could I ask for?!

One of my favorite quotes that never fails to put things into perspective goes like this:

“The secret of happiness is to live moment by moment and to thank God for all that He, in His goodness, sends to us day after day.” –St. Gianna Molla

Everything that we are given is a gift from God. Our human nature will tell us to want more in every situation, but it is our job as Christians when we get that temptation, to stop and just be thankful where we are right here and now. We are so so blessed, but we forget to look around and see our blessings. We are too focused on trying to get more.

A Little Perspective

Jesus loves you and me right here and now, and that in itself is more than anything else we could ask for. Sometimes when I start worrying about things of this world, I remind myself of that and I realize, none of this actually matters! I could lose everything in my life that I love, but I would still have nothing to fear because I would have Christ. And my happiness and joy lies in that.

So this is me, just reminding you, from one stubborn overachiever to the next, to take time to be thankful today and remember that you are enough. You are enough for Him, so be enough for yourself.

From the depths of my soul to yours, Josie